If you want to be a successful dater, or have an active dating life, all you really have to be is how you are at work. Respectful, cordial and prompt, if they value these traits in an employee, most people will admire this in someone they could possibly date. People seem to second-guess themselves when they get a phone call from someone they gave their number to. They think that there's some sort of secret formula into making your prospective date like you even more. But the truth is, it doesn't require rocket science. All it needs is plain courtesy.
This guide will help you on your way to ensure your phone dating life is a success:
Nobody wants to wait. Let's face it, if you give out your number, you expect to be called. And then that person makes you wait a week before returning the call. Well, that's just plain rude. You won't let a prospective client wait, so why should you do that with your possible mate? Don't make up those excuses that's been overused in the dating books, like I was too busy, or my dog died, or you went on vacation. In this day and age, everyone is a text message or quick phone call away. The impression you'll give is that you are not interested. You don't want that, unless you really are uninterested. However, if they let you wait that long, it might be a good idea to let them wait too. In the dating world, just as it is in the corporate world, reciprocate the respect. If they don't seem to care about your anxiety over that call, then let them wait too. It's all about manners too.
Live by the Golden Rule. You treat people the way you want to be treated. There is no way you can pull off not calling and not seeming like a complete ill-mannered person. You call no matter how busy you are. How long will that call actually take, 5 minutes? Or leave them a message on their answering machine, be polite and tell them how you're swamped with work (this must be true) and how you enjoyed the night and want to see them again. And if you don't want to see them again, still thank them. It takes so much effort to actually go out with someone and if you do this, it sends them the idea that you value their time. If it doesn't work out, you can actually be good friends; that's why it is nice to end on good terms.
Don't think of timeframes. If you received a phone number from your date, it is perfectly fine to call them immediately. Actually, it depends more on what you say during that prompt call that sends the message, whether you're being pathetic and desperate or that you value their time and that they matter. Say something like, "Hi, I really enjoyed the night and I'm looking forward to seeing you again. Call me if you're not too busy or something." It tells them that you have impeccable manners and actually value their time and know what an effort it is to risk dating someone. Blind dates are stressful, and that person invests their time in seeing you so thank them for that. Be sincere, let's face it. You won't actually call back someone you have no desire of ever seeing again.
Don't push it. There may come a time when you genuinely like someone but they don't necessarily like you back. Well, since men weren't created equal, you might not be what the other person really wants in someone he/she is willing to date. The best way to go about this is to move on. You cannot force a person into liking you, no matter how much you really like him/her. Tough luck but if you push it, like bombarding her with calls or insane questions about why she/he isn't returning your calls, it will only create more reasons for them to avoid you even more. If they don't reciprocate, then move on, take the high road after thanking them sincerely. After that, take the free time to look for someone who will actually like you. Don't see it as a major put-down, look at it as an opportunity to find that person made for you.
Following these tips will make your phone dating life easier, just remember the golden rule, respect and always, under all circumstances, call back.
This guide will help you on your way to ensure your phone dating life is a success:
Nobody wants to wait. Let's face it, if you give out your number, you expect to be called. And then that person makes you wait a week before returning the call. Well, that's just plain rude. You won't let a prospective client wait, so why should you do that with your possible mate? Don't make up those excuses that's been overused in the dating books, like I was too busy, or my dog died, or you went on vacation. In this day and age, everyone is a text message or quick phone call away. The impression you'll give is that you are not interested. You don't want that, unless you really are uninterested. However, if they let you wait that long, it might be a good idea to let them wait too. In the dating world, just as it is in the corporate world, reciprocate the respect. If they don't seem to care about your anxiety over that call, then let them wait too. It's all about manners too.
Live by the Golden Rule. You treat people the way you want to be treated. There is no way you can pull off not calling and not seeming like a complete ill-mannered person. You call no matter how busy you are. How long will that call actually take, 5 minutes? Or leave them a message on their answering machine, be polite and tell them how you're swamped with work (this must be true) and how you enjoyed the night and want to see them again. And if you don't want to see them again, still thank them. It takes so much effort to actually go out with someone and if you do this, it sends them the idea that you value their time. If it doesn't work out, you can actually be good friends; that's why it is nice to end on good terms.
Don't think of timeframes. If you received a phone number from your date, it is perfectly fine to call them immediately. Actually, it depends more on what you say during that prompt call that sends the message, whether you're being pathetic and desperate or that you value their time and that they matter. Say something like, "Hi, I really enjoyed the night and I'm looking forward to seeing you again. Call me if you're not too busy or something." It tells them that you have impeccable manners and actually value their time and know what an effort it is to risk dating someone. Blind dates are stressful, and that person invests their time in seeing you so thank them for that. Be sincere, let's face it. You won't actually call back someone you have no desire of ever seeing again.
Don't push it. There may come a time when you genuinely like someone but they don't necessarily like you back. Well, since men weren't created equal, you might not be what the other person really wants in someone he/she is willing to date. The best way to go about this is to move on. You cannot force a person into liking you, no matter how much you really like him/her. Tough luck but if you push it, like bombarding her with calls or insane questions about why she/he isn't returning your calls, it will only create more reasons for them to avoid you even more. If they don't reciprocate, then move on, take the high road after thanking them sincerely. After that, take the free time to look for someone who will actually like you. Don't see it as a major put-down, look at it as an opportunity to find that person made for you.
Following these tips will make your phone dating life easier, just remember the golden rule, respect and always, under all circumstances, call back.
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