Many a little girl and boy grow up dreaming about their wedding day. I know I did. Okay, so maybe the little boys don't dream about fancy white dresses except for wondering how they're going to manage all those buttons, but you get my drift. As with a lot of traditions, marriage is also being viewed through new eyes. People are deciding what to do with their lives based on what is right and makes sense for them and not what has traditionally been acceptable. One of the traditions is slowly falling by the wayside is marriage.
Personally, I just want the presents and the honeymoon. More and more people are giving marriage the boot. And here's why.
Divorce is expensive and people are realizing that with rates of occurrence being as high as they have been for years, they're better off just skipping the whole messy thing.
People are fickle. And it's increasingly acceptable to acknowledge that, own up to the fact that people and preferences change and to decide that it doesn't make sense to you to legally commit to one person; especially if you know yourself well enough to anticipate changing your mind at some point.
The law is slowly catching on to the fact that not everyone wants to be legally married. However, many unmarried people have children and the share property. As such they feel they should have the same legal rights as those who are legally married. Laws across the US are not uniform, so be sure you check out the laws in your state if you decide to give marriage a pass.
Many women don't relish the idea of being ceremoniously passed off from one man to another; not to mention going from having one mans last name to another. Even ladies who don't consider themselves to be hardcore feminists are rejected this antiquated tradition in favor of life choices that they feel are more respectful of their autonomy and independence.
Many devoted unmarried couples feel that their relationship is kept genuine by the lack of a piece of paper. That's not to say that married couples don't want to be together; I'm sure they do. But if you need to make your relationship legal and official could it be that you need a security blanket because you feel the relationship won't last the course?
The bottom line used to be that we got married to have sex and have babies. These days we have almost unlimited options about who we have sex with and when we have it. Marriage is no longer required for procreation either; it's a function of biology, not the law or tradition.
Sure, couples are still getting hitched and popping out kids, but that's not the only combination anymore. Things are more flexible and open-ended; people are taking advantage of that and finding a situation that works best for them and their partner.
Personally, I just want the presents and the honeymoon. More and more people are giving marriage the boot. And here's why.
Divorce is expensive and people are realizing that with rates of occurrence being as high as they have been for years, they're better off just skipping the whole messy thing.
People are fickle. And it's increasingly acceptable to acknowledge that, own up to the fact that people and preferences change and to decide that it doesn't make sense to you to legally commit to one person; especially if you know yourself well enough to anticipate changing your mind at some point.
The law is slowly catching on to the fact that not everyone wants to be legally married. However, many unmarried people have children and the share property. As such they feel they should have the same legal rights as those who are legally married. Laws across the US are not uniform, so be sure you check out the laws in your state if you decide to give marriage a pass.
Many women don't relish the idea of being ceremoniously passed off from one man to another; not to mention going from having one mans last name to another. Even ladies who don't consider themselves to be hardcore feminists are rejected this antiquated tradition in favor of life choices that they feel are more respectful of their autonomy and independence.
Many devoted unmarried couples feel that their relationship is kept genuine by the lack of a piece of paper. That's not to say that married couples don't want to be together; I'm sure they do. But if you need to make your relationship legal and official could it be that you need a security blanket because you feel the relationship won't last the course?
The bottom line used to be that we got married to have sex and have babies. These days we have almost unlimited options about who we have sex with and when we have it. Marriage is no longer required for procreation either; it's a function of biology, not the law or tradition.
Sure, couples are still getting hitched and popping out kids, but that's not the only combination anymore. Things are more flexible and open-ended; people are taking advantage of that and finding a situation that works best for them and their partner.
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